“The Fashionistas”….WINNER of 10 AVN Awards:

• Best Film
• Best Director
• Best Actor and Actress
• Best Editing
• Best Cinematography
• Best Music Soundtrack
• and Three Best Sex Scene Awards

…a disturbing marathon of anal-sex and S&M… ~ ABC News Primetime, Diane Sawyer

Watch the trailer, it will blow your mind!

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John Stagliano’s ambitious, scalding, kink-drenched, epic-like The Fashionistas arguably is the best adult film of the year. Clearly the pinnacle of Stagliano’s illustrious career. The Fashionistas is the finest hardcore-meets-BDSM story-oriented porn production ever. ~ AVN, Mike Ramone

Check it out, at Wasteland

“We started KinkCulture with a Dutch BDSM Master and friend of Wasteland for many years,” said Wasteland’s founder, and 2011 AVN Hall of Fame inductee, Colin Rowntree. “Because of this, it has a very interesting international mix of members from both North America and Europe. We felt there was a lack of full featured, mainstream style dating/community sites out there for the kink and alt sex community, and with the new ways in which social networkers and dating surfers use the web, we decided to bring together all of these now ‘standard’ mainstream features into a great mix of BDSM community site combined with a kinky dating site.”

KinkCulture plans to roll out additional features soon, including total facebook integration, and 2-way live video chat for use between members. So what do we think?  Totally AWESOME!  You got to check it out.

There is a risk. If she falls, she WILL break her ankles. While you can easily prevent that from actually happening be securing her to the ceiling with a rope, that will not take the fear away. Besides, since any movement will immediately hurt her ankles, that fear is re-enforced several times per minute!

If you plan to have a session with footstocks you MUST make sure her body is sufficiently secured so she cannot fall and her legs can never make a fatal angle to the stocks themselves. The potential risk of broken ankles and legs is VERY serious and you may cripple her for life if you do not secure her. Especially any action that will create contact between the board and the front of the legs is extremely painful. That may very well spark counter reactions that are entirely unpredictable, hence securing is a must.

Even if you are a hard sadist, don’t think that securing her will take any of the cruelty out of the situation. It will not. In fact, it will signal that she, although safe, is probably going to be in this demanding and humiliating position for a long time, which – to her – will only make things worse. Her genital area is fully exposed and ready for either torture or sexual stimulation. both of which will trigger movement and as a result: pain.

And there is another thing to consider: it more than a little likely that the skin will be chafed. Lining the hole with leather will prevent most of this, but bruises are likely to be the result no matter how hard you try to prevent them and the ankles and legs will be sore for several days after, especially if it is going to be a long session.

The final thing bear in mind: standing for a longer period of time may invoke fainting. That is not what you want to see happen to a slave in footstocks, so observe your slave at all times. Secondly, standing with the legs apart may be very demanding for people with (previous) back and hip injuries.

All articles are provided for informational or entertainment purposes only. We are NOT responsible for any injures or other results that participating or partaking in such activities might cause. Everything you read on this page is based on the personal opinion of the author and does not always reflect those of the owners and / or staff of Wasteland. If you try anything found in this article, you do so at your OWN risk! Always remember! SAFETY FIRST! and please use common sense.

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The facts are, everyone is different, and everyone has their own preferences. I personally greatly enjoy topping my girlfriend, and also greatly enjoy submitting to her. Some people _are_ tops in every play situation, just as some are bottoms in every play situation–but I know people who top men but bottom to women, people who sometimes switch roles multiple times within one date, and every other spectrum of possibility!

People who top are called “tops,” people who bottom are called “bottoms,” and people who switch back and forth between topping and bottoming are called “switches.” A switch can be a top in one scene and a bottom in another. Some people switch back and forth often; others switch only between scenes, but retain one role throughout any individual scene; others switch only very seldom with people that they trust very deeply; and still others never switch at all.

If you do switch, and you’re not sure which role you want, you can play with that question in itself. Whole scenes can revolve around the “who’s on top?” question. Maybe you can have a wrestling match, and the person who gets pinned first will wind up being tied up. Maybe you can set a timer, and when the timer dings, it’s time to switch positions! There are as many possibilities as your imagination can dream of!

Then again, maybe only one side of the balance holds any appeal for you, and in that case, you’ll want to play with folks who have little desire for _your_ side… it takes all kinds, and all kinds are out there.

It is also the case that there is no necessary relation between whether someone is dominant or submissive in everyday life and whether they are a top or a bottom. Some of the most domineering executives secretly love being abased and abused… it’s a chance for them to lose control, to give up responsibility. And some of the most quiet, meek, shy-looking people you’ve ever seen turn into demonic geniuses of pain and pleasure when given someone to play with.

It’s not at all unheard of for someone who’s done only one thing (for example, bottoming) to one day start feeling the urge to top, or vice versa. People change, preferences change, it’s nothing unusual. This, though, leads into the next question….

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A while ago we talked about the expectations that might be set for a party.  Now let’s  look at one of the scenes that might occur at that party in a similar way.  What expectations to the participants bring to it?  Let’s imagine the case of a submissive woman and her non-playing but supportive partner.   She wants to be tied and flogged while her partner watches, so she can escape into a private fantasy which she knows will bring her to an ecstatic climax.  For the time being, her partner must become an actor,  must be able to sustain the fantasy that is being projected upon them. An amateur theatre production might for example thrust a man upon the stage with a black eye-patch, a stuffed parrot in one hand and a wooden cutlass in the other.  The sound system scratches out a non-descript shanty and someone chucks a bucket of water over the set.  Wanting to believe in the story being told, the audience settles back to await a rousing tale of swashbuckling and kidnapped maidens.  Incidentally, directors know how important the kidnapped maiden bit is.  But I digress!

This woman’s partner may be required to be a cold observer of her humiliation or a helpless wretch unable to save her from her plight.  Her fantasy is her own story, and the others in the scene are her supporting cast   We enter into the realm of participatory ritual theatre.  Our task is easier than it is for the Mummers or the presenters of Passion Plays.  Easier even than for those engaging in demonstrations of  dungeon techniques for an audience, since we have only to create the experience for ourselves and not be concerned with the communication of  the experience.

Starting with the conclusion and working backwards we know that we want the submissive to achieve her earth-shattering orgasm.  She may wish it to occur within a particular  physical and psychological context, such as betrayal by her loved one at the height of her physical pain.  Thus the scene will end with her partner passionately embracing another woman just about the time she reaches the limit of her tolerance for the flogging.  The flogger then, will be going for overload and stress, rather than an endorphin high.  The position assumed for the flogging will also be such that the subject will be able to get herself off.  A rolled towel between her legs, perhaps enhanced with the insertion of a butt plug,  can provide sufficient stimulation, if she has freedom to wriggle.

Now we come to the “why” of the story.  How has she ended up in this predicament in the first place?  If her story tells that she came blindfolded, naked under her dress, the toy already filling her bottom, then that is how the evening should start.   But we still don’t know  the “why” of it.  Perhaps she has been a silly, frivolous girl, always whining for more, unappreciative of what she already has.  In order to punish her she has been brought to the dungeon where her humiliation will be witnessed by amused strangers.  Now we have the key to the rest of the scene.  There must be an entrance, an air of formality and inevitability about the proceedings.  In the spirit of consensual non-consensuality  she must be able to believe that she has no choice other than to go along with what is to be done to her, and to create the necessary level of excitement, she must be afraid of what is going to happen.  Her expectation that she will be taken beyond her limits must be fulfilled, although it is important to point out here that we are talking about perceived limits, not real limits, for it is in the unexplored territory between where the true essence of dungeon play is found.  To go beyond a real limit is senseless brutality and does nothing but damage both the top and the bottom physically, mentally or both.

With the broad structure in place there are many details of costuming, props, narrative and environment that support that structure.  Next we will get into the details that work on the human psyche to develop and enhance fantasy.  Think about all the ways that folk have devised to ritualize their lives from the Goth scene to conservative Catholicism.

Until the next time,

May all your black clothes make it back from the cleaners,

SB.

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Apart from the Top 10 below there are a few other things to discuss here. One is the assumption that the erotic power exchange world is one rosy-tinted, wonderful, understanding, loving and caring community. That is not true, especially not on the Internet. The world is full of idiots and dangerous people and the erotic power exchange community is no exception to that rule – neither in a positive nor in a negative way. Like in any other groups, idiots and dangerous people are everywhere.

Of course it’s wonderful when you discover your own emotions and it’s great, super, awesome or whatever that you can relate to others that share these same emotions and that as such can be an overwhelming experience.. But that’s no reason to suddenly drop all your natural safety shields, put your brain on the shelf and jump in feet first.

There’s no way you can tell for sure that someone, who seems to be so wonderful in a chatroom or on a discussion list, in real life is so wonderful as well and – unfortunately – there are quite a few reports about first dates between people that had met on the Internet, that turned into absolute disaster, either emotionally, or physically, or both. Sometimes it’s just a matter of someone telling a few white lies about his/her looks and over-emphasizing his or her positive points while conveniently hiding the less positive habits. But there are also reports about rape, physical injury and – recently – clever fraud schemes.

Although there is no reason to be dramatic about this and we’re certainly not here to create more cases of paranoia, it’s only wise to be “en guarde” especially when it comes to first and second real life meetings. And it’s also not a matter of “bad dominants/tops” only. Of course there are doms/tops around with the wrong intentions. There are however just as many reports about submissives/bottoms who turned out to be outright criminals or serious psychiatric cases who needed treatment and help – and certainly not erotic power exchange.

All this is not limited to the Internet. People with long-lasting party and support group experience will tell you that the credo “never ever have a first meeting in your home” has been around for ages and for very good reasons. People are easily lured into something they do not want to do when they’re vulnerable and talking about or dealing with intimate and very personal emotions like erotic power exchange and sexuality.
So, the bottom line is: be safety-aware and take safety serious. For your own good.

1. In your dreams and fantasies anything is possible. Doing this in reality may be quite something different. DO slow down on your fantasies. Take it one step at the time and only add things and ideas if you feel up to it. DON’T confront your partner with an exact scheme of what you think is supposed to happen. Share ideas and dreams but leave enough space for each other to fill in whatever it is you like.

2. DO establish safewords or other signals. If for whatever reason you don’t want to use safewords, then be sure to tell your partner about this and agree on this mutually. DON’T disrespect or ignore someone’s safewords.

3. DO communicate with each other about both fantasies and barriers. DON’T withhold valuable information. “I don’t like this or that” is also valuable information. If you don’t tell your partner, how is he or she supposed to know?

4. DO try and be as clear about the signals you send out as you can, even when “in scene.” DON’T expect your partner to be clairvoyant. (Tops/doms are not really mind readers…they just seem to be).

5. DO buy quality toys and gear. Or learn how to make quality gear for yourself – the key ingredient is quality, learn all you can about what makes each item high-quality. DO make a habit of testing locks, rings, hooks and suspension gear every time before you use them. Be sure you know the difference between static and shock ratings on ropes and chains if you want to use suspension techniques (we’ll add a section on bondage and suspension tips later). DON’T go for cheap toys, you may seem to save money, but in fact you will get into trouble.

6. DON’T overestimate yourself. Getting a hundred lashes in your dreams is not quite the same as ten “live” ones. Never promise, or threaten with, things you’re not yet certain about for yourself. DO get inspired by what other people do but DON’T think “oh, i can do this or that” without making sure you can. It’s ok to tell others in the scene that there are things you don’t know about or haven’t tried – it often leads to some wonderful “learning experiences.”

7. DO concentrate on the game and on your partner. For one thing, doing things with focus and intent will intensify the experience for both of you. For another, accidents usually happen because you’re distracted. Pay attention and you’ll both have a much better time!

8. Alcohol, drugs or poppers can make a scene unsafe. They will suppress your pain-sensation and can easily pump up your level of general acceptance beyond your control. When in scene your body produces endorphins (a natural opiate) and adrenaline. Artificial stimuli will only interfere with or act to strengthen these things – but perhaps not in the ways you’d expect. Better to learn to use your body’s own chemical reactions. If you choose to ignore this advice be sure you and your partner(s) are aware of what you’re using and that they still agree to play anyway.

9. DO tell each other about physical, mental or medical problems, recent medical treatment and possible medication, if you are taking any.

10. DO be prepared for intense emotions and fierce reactions but DON’T let all this scare you away from all the fun, intense love and great sensations an erotic power exchange scene can bring about.

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What is essential as far as classic domestic discipline is concerned is that people never actually hardly ever specific punishment instruments, but just grabbed the first available and suitable thing – as far as birching is concerned the broom and usually the short and thick one that was used to clean out the fire place and the stove (which was readily available in the kitchen and the living quarters).

What makes the birch a special instrument for punishment is first of all of course the pain and the humiliation of the punishment itself, but secondly its very specific after effects.

While the pain of the punishment itself will die down relatively quickly, what stays is the terrible itch, which is the result of the many, tiny, superficial wounds a birch leaves behind.

That will usually lead to a long, sleepless night with a lot of tossing and turning and the young lady contemplating her fate.

Which is why experienced disciplinarians will frequently confine their trainee to specific quarters for the night (such as the guest room or the couch), simply because the educator himself won’t get much sleep with a restless, itchy, recently disciplined punishee sharing his bed.

And punishments, of course, are not to have negative effects on the disciplinarian.

Dripping some vinegar over the fresh markings may increase the after effect and create an extra, stingy feel. Use this to increase her difficulties and the severity of the punishment.

Vicky’s next goal?  To reach 1,000,000 followers.

In honor of Vicky’s accomplishments, we asked Wasteland.com, if we could publish the some photos they took of her way back in 2001.  Enjoy!

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This is my story. My husband and I run a private business. It is an Internet based operation that we run from our home. It is quite a demanding job, sometimes a bit stressful. And I am – or should I say was – a coffee-addict. A year ago I would drink 12 to 15 cups of coffee a day. Black and strong. No milk, just sugar. That was until the day my husband – who is also my 24/7 master – told me coffee for me would be a no go and that, if I really needed it, it would have to be “French coffee”.

This means drinking coffee now is a very humiliating protocol for me

It goes like this. If a really, really, really want coffee I will first of all have to beg for it. Next, when it suits him, I will have to kneel down and give master a really good blowjob.

And that is not just a “suck and swallow” quickly. No, he wants the works.

I must kiss, lick and suck until he is completely satisfied and ready to cum. If he does I must of course catch the sperm in my mouth, but I am not allowed to swallow it.

Master is a hard man to please and he has taught me well. So this part of the ritual is very likely to take quite some time. Usually something in between 30 minutes and an hour.

Only now master will pour me a cup of coffee. I will next have to empty my mouth in my cup, thus mixing the sperm with the coffee. This I have to do in front of him, still kneeling, so he can enjoy the scene. I can assure you, this is probably the most humiliating part of the process.

I’m sure you get the point by now. What is inside the cup after this is what master has baptized “French coffee”. I have to drink it of course.

This is the only coffee I am allowed to drink. And what is worse, this ritual allows for very clever embarrassment.

For example, whenever we visit others and people offer me coffee I have to say that only drink “French coffee”. When they ask for an explanation I will give them some story about a very special European brand or a very special blending, both of course unavailable in the United States.

And all I can do is hope that there is not another master somewhere who came up with the same idea….

Alternative sexual games open new possibilities for STD infection. Most of these are caused by viruses and are easy to catch if you allow them to enter a body opening (sex organ, mouth or small wound). We will give some short descriptions here:

VIRUS INFECTIONS

Hepatitis

Is an inflammation of the liver. There are different forms (A and B are the most common), caused by a virus. Symptoms may vary from relatively harmless flu type reactions to fatal liver diseases.

Herpes

(also around in different forms) causes small fluid filled blisters. It is a virus. The blistering will not be triggered by the disease but by external factors like exposure to the sun, emotional stress or another illness or fever. The blisters may appear on and around the mouth, the genitals or other parts of the body, depending on the type. Herpes is not fatal, but may cause complications with other infections and sometimes can be painful. Herpes simplex, that may cause blisters on the mouth and/or genitals, cannot yet be cured.

Syphilis

In modern society is rare, but still around. It is caused by an organism and causes swellings on the body that will leave a scar after healing. Unrecognized syphilis will eventually ruin the vascular and nervous systems and cause death.

Genital Warts

(small swellings in and around the genitals) are caused by a virus. They may cause the development of cervix cancer and should be taken seriously. They need early and repeated treatment.

BACTERIA

Gonorrhea

Has been around for ages and still is something to watch out for. It may cause sterility (men) or inflammation of the fallopian tube (women). An infected women may pass it on to the eyes of a newborn child when the infection occurs during pregnancy.

Chlamydial and Ureaplasmal

Infections 
Are the most common group of STDs. They are likely to cause all sorts of diseases. Treatment and interruption of sexual contacts is advised. This group spreads easily and rapidly. Having dirty hands or fingernails when penetrating or dirty toys are the most common causes. 
We’ve mentioned only the most common STDs here, there are a lot more around. When in doubt, always check with your doctor. You may be embarrassed about it. This is only natural and the doctor will understand this. Remember, it may the first time you are confronted with STDs, but the doctor has seen it all before. Not seeing the doctor in almost all cases leads to trouble. Most of the STDs will not go away by themselves and some are nasty and persistent. 


Be aware that some bdsm techniques can also be responsible for transmitting STDs 


Unprotected Toys 
Are the most common transmitter of bacteria and are likely to cause one of the infections mentioned above. Even if it has just been laying around for awhile it may have picked up bacteria. When you penetrate, always use a condom – and don’t forget your wonderful penis-shaped whip grip.

Bondage Ropes

When used in the genital area, are another possible transmitter of disease. The general advice is to wash your ropes regularly, disinfect them and reserve marked ropes for these areas. When just hanging on the wall and not being used for some time germs and bacteria may find a nice nest inside your bondage ropes. (Guess you’ll just have to use them more!)

Nipple Clamps

Are another well known toy often used in this (genital) area. Again regularly clean and disinfect them.

Leather

Is a living material and germs and bacteria will nest in it, especially if these toys have not been used for some time.

Whipping

One thing you should be aware of is that whipping causes the small veins in the skin to open up and send blood to the whipped area. This creates an expressway for viruses and bacteria to infiltrate the body and not only the std-related ones. You should be aware of this phenomena, especially when whipping the genital area. Extra attention to hygiene and regular cleaning and disinfecting of whips is required.

First Aid Kit

This entire safe sex section may scare you a bit. There’s no need for that, but it’s always advisable to be aware of possible risks and to take precautions when necessary. This goes for having a first aid kit around as well. Mishaps always occur. Most any general first aid kit will do, with two extras: first of all a pair of bandage scissors. These will enable you to quickly and safely cut ropes and even leather straps when you need to. Bandage scissors are designed to avoid harming your partner unintentionally. Next to this it’s handy to have freeze spray (or cold spray) around for muscle treatment (makes a wonderful toy as well).