First Encounters

// October 1st, 2011 // Comments Off // Featured // Featured

I was talking to a lad one day who had no trouble meeting women, but really wanted a “play partner”.  His complaint was that as soon as he pulled out his floggers his dates would get cold and distant, then leave soon after.  None, apparently, were able to recall their telephone number just then.

Now, it is a fact that many of the people that I have played with were not “in the scene” when I first met them. However, for those who had an interest it was easy for us to communicate our mutual curiosity without being too obvious about our negotiations. Thus, either of us would be able to back out without anything being said that might later be a matter of regret.

For example, a provocative, bratty attitude on the part of your new love may be the consequence of poor upbringing, or it may be an opening move.  Do not get exasperated; stay calm and centered, and suggest that “there would seem to be a public spanking about to happen here very soon”.  Watch her eyes.   Do you detect a gleam, instantly repressed, perhaps?

Later, half-undressed, poised in those numinous moments between suggestion and consummation, pleasure one nipple and gently but insistently apply pressure to the other between finger and thumb. Is she open to the conflicting sensations, uncertain perhaps, yet allowing herself to explore the experience and her reaction to it?

When lust engages and engulfs, when hormones and exercise have opened the doors of intimacy, try shielding her sight with a hand over her eyes.  Pin her wrist to the pillow with the other hand, restrain her with one leg artfully cast over her body with your knee placed precisely where she can rub her most erogenous zone against it to best effect.

Once the earthquake has subsided and Pussy has been rekindled with sweet kisses and licks, flip her over and initiate a private preview of the public discipline alluded to earlier.  Lightly spank the underside of her delicious buttocks, the “sweet spot”.  You may well be encouraged to continue, and are thus well on your way to a satisfying BDSM relationship, without questions that may trigger automatic denial, without setting out scary toys that provoke anxiety and doubt about your intentions, without making it all seem like a set-up.

When approached in this way, any inclination that a shy partner may have towards sexual exploration will be encouraged. By taking the lead in a manner that offers her interesting alternatives yet always gives her control over her situation, you will arouse her curiosity as to what else you have to offer and reassure her that you are someone to play with, not someone to be afraid of.

See you at the next party ?
Simon Blackthorn.

Reprinted with Permission ~ Wasteland.Com

Documentary: “The Making Of Succubus”

// September 13th, 2011 // Comments Off // Featured // Featured

Award-winning mainstream documentary film maker, David Pilot (“Saving Manhattan”) from NYC spent many days on location with The Wasteland and Evil Motion Picture crew  filming the creation of this film.  Shooting on vintage wind-up film cameras in 25 degree (Fahrenheit) cold weather with these ancient cameras was a bit tricky (they kept literally freezing up), but, beyond all obstacles, David and his crew managed to capture the essence of this remarkable project, its cast and crew.

You can purchase this movie at EvilMotionPicture.Com or watch it at Wasteland.com

 

 

Tops – Bottoms – Switches

// August 30th, 2011 // Comments Off // BDSM Articles, Featured // BDSM Articles, Featured

One perception that some people can have, looking into the scene from outside, is that people are either tops or bottoms. Either you like to dominate, or you like to be dominated. And sometimes novices become confused, because they’re excited by _both_ possibilities.

The facts are, everyone is different, and everyone has their own preferences. I personally greatly enjoy topping my girlfriend, and also greatly enjoy submitting to her. Some people _are_ tops in every play situation, just as some are bottoms in every play situation–but I know people who top men but bottom to women, people who sometimes switch roles multiple times within one date, and every other spectrum of possibility!

People who top are called “tops,” people who bottom are called “bottoms,” and people who switch back and forth between topping and bottoming are called “switches.” A switch can be a top in one scene and a bottom in another. Some people switch back and forth often; others switch only between scenes, but retain one role throughout any individual scene; others switch only very seldom with people that they trust very deeply; and still others never switch at all.

If you do switch, and you’re not sure which role you want, you can play with that question in itself. Whole scenes can revolve around the “who’s on top?” question. Maybe you can have a wrestling match, and the person who gets pinned first will wind up being tied up. Maybe you can set a timer, and when the timer dings, it’s time to switch positions! There are as many possibilities as your imagination can dream of!

Then again, maybe only one side of the balance holds any appeal for you, and in that case, you’ll want to play with folks who have little desire for _your_ side… it takes all kinds, and all kinds are out there.

It is also the case that there is no necessary relation between whether someone is dominant or submissive in everyday life and whether they are a top or a bottom. Some of the most domineering executives secretly love being abased and abused… it’s a chance for them to lose control, to give up responsibility. And some of the most quiet, meek, shy-looking people you’ve ever seen turn into demonic geniuses of pain and pleasure when given someone to play with.

It’s not at all unheard of for someone who’s done only one thing (for example, bottoming) to one day start feeling the urge to top, or vice versa. People change, preferences change, it’s nothing unusual. This, though, leads into the next question….

Reprinted with Permission ~ Wasteland.Com

TEN Visits Wasteland

// August 14th, 2011 // Comments Off // Featured // Featured

Wasteland welcomes back Shibari Master David Lawrence and this time he brought with him the beautiful “Ten”.  In this Behind-The-Scenes footage, you can see some of David’s Intricate tying techniques.  This is unusual footage as it was taken by one of the cameramen on the set just prior to the start of an incredibly hot scene.  For the full movie, please visit Wasteland.Com.  The name of the movie is, you guessed it, “TEN”.

 

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