Stigma & Prejudice

// March 6th, 2009 // No Comments » // BDSM Articles

The Proverbial Chicken & Egg What came first?

The common prejudice about erotic power exchange or the sometimes wrong charisma, erotic power exchange has? And is this charisma at least partially responsible for the prejudice?

Without doubt one influences the other. On one hand we have the ineradicable social prejudice, based on misinformation (mainly by mainstream media) and psychiatrists ventilating outdated or simply ill-based opinions. On the other hand however we see quite a lot of immature behavior from both individuals and groups around the world, that “helps” to sustain the prejudice. Not to mention the vast number of know-it-alls, wannabees and self-proclaimed experts in the erotic power exchange community. The EPE-community (or scene) if such a thing exists at all, has several major problems when it comes to their “core business”. Problem number one is that the community simply is very tolerant, maybe even too tolerant, which allows for many people, that actually do not have true erotic power exchange emotions, to enter the “scene”. These may be either people that have difficulty finding contacts with people of their own preferences - such as transvestites and fetishists, but quite often also people that “confuse” erotic power exchange with a way to have it all their own selfish way. The other tolerance-related problem is that the community fails to set strict borders between what is and what is not erotic power exchange (true, that is not an easy thing to do). The last problem is the fact that the community, at least until now, has never given a definition of what power exactly is exchanged. (more…)

Real Life BDSM Versus Online

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… and never the twain shall meet? …There is definitely a trend on the Internet - the constant discussion about which is better: a real life relationship or what is generally known as an on-line relationship; in other words people having some form of cyber erotic power exchange, which usually comes down to scening via chatboxes, sending e-mails, using webcams and such. And - most importantly one fighting the other over the question whether or not such a cyber-relationship may truly be called a relationship.

It is truly amazing to see how history repeats itself and the “Internet BDSM community” (if such a thing exists at all) going through all the growing pains the “Real/life BDSM community” (same comment) has gone through - and sometimes still is - 25 years ago. Some of that no doubt has to do with the fact that the Internet brings about an entire - and much larger - new influx of people interested in the subject. As a result of this new influx all the “hear say information”, rumors, hoaxes, “I-think-it-is-like-this”, my kink is the kink seem to be bouncing back at those of us who have been around a bit longer. (more…)

What is Total Power Exchange?

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People use cars for different reasons. Most use them (more or less) occasionally: to go to work, to do shopping, to visit grandma or to drop the kids off at school. Others, such as truck drivers, Formula 1 racers and taxi drivers make a profession out of driving a car.

Let’s cross over to BDSM. Again, probably the vast majority of people into it do it occasionally, just for the fun of it. But a bunch of others are in totally different relationship: D/s, 24/7 or TPE, the people who have taken BDSM beyond the kink. (more…)

FAQ: Total Power Exchange

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Can you provide a definition of TPE (Total Power Exchange)?

It is of course next to impossible to provide exact definitions for any relationship, since relationships revolve around individual people, individual needs and individual circumstances.

Having said that, TPE relationships do have certain common denominators. (more…)