Structuring a Scene
// July 28th, 2011 // Comments Off // BDSM Articles
The mention of ritual in Dungeon play, or what is commonly referred to as “the scene” set me to thinking. Consider that the word scene, “scenario”, denotes a very structured activity. A scene is like a chapter in a book. It is a critical part of a whole story, one step of a journey from initiation to conclusion. As a species, it has been said that with no compulsion to do anything else, we would prefer to spend most of our time absorbed in stories. For the reasons why stories are so compelling, one is referred elsewhere, but for now, let us look at how structuring a scene one way rather than another may result in a radically enhanced experience for the players.
A while ago we talked about the expectations that might be set for a party. Now let’s look at one of the scenes that might occur at that party in a similar way. What expectations to the participants bring to it? Let’s imagine the case of a submissive woman and her non-playing but supportive partner. She wants to be tied and flogged while her partner watches, so she can escape into a private fantasy which she knows will bring her to an ecstatic climax. For the time being, her partner must become an actor, must be able to sustain the fantasy that is being projected upon them. An amateur theatre production might for example thrust a man upon the stage with a black eye-patch, a stuffed parrot in one hand and a wooden cutlass in the other. The sound system scratches out a non-descript shanty and someone chucks a bucket of water over the set. Wanting to believe in the story being told, the audience settles back to await a rousing tale of swashbuckling and kidnapped maidens. Incidentally, directors know how important the kidnapped maiden bit is. But I digress!
This woman’s partner may be required to be a cold observer of her humiliation or a helpless wretch unable to save her from her plight. Her fantasy is her own story, and the others in the scene are her supporting cast We enter into the realm of participatory ritual theatre. Our task is easier than it is for the Mummers or the presenters of Passion Plays. Easier even than for those engaging in demonstrations of dungeon techniques for an audience, since we have only to create the experience for ourselves and not be concerned with the communication of the experience.
Starting with the conclusion and working backwards we know that we want the submissive to achieve her earth-shattering orgasm. She may wish it to occur within a particular physical and psychological context, such as betrayal by her loved one at the height of her physical pain. Thus the scene will end with her partner passionately embracing another woman just about the time she reaches the limit of her tolerance for the flogging. The flogger then, will be going for overload and stress, rather than an endorphin high. The position assumed for the flogging will also be such that the subject will be able to get herself off. A rolled towel between her legs, perhaps enhanced with the insertion of a butt plug, can provide sufficient stimulation, if she has freedom to wriggle.
Now we come to the “why” of the story. How has she ended up in this predicament in the first place? If her story tells that she came blindfolded, naked under her dress, the toy already filling her bottom, then that is how the evening should start. But we still don’t know the “why” of it. Perhaps she has been a silly, frivolous girl, always whining for more, unappreciative of what she already has. In order to punish her she has been brought to the dungeon where her humiliation will be witnessed by amused strangers. Now we have the key to the rest of the scene. There must be an entrance, an air of formality and inevitability about the proceedings. In the spirit of consensual non-consensuality she must be able to believe that she has no choice other than to go along with what is to be done to her, and to create the necessary level of excitement, she must be afraid of what is going to happen. Her expectation that she will be taken beyond her limits must be fulfilled, although it is important to point out here that we are talking about perceived limits, not real limits, for it is in the unexplored territory between where the true essence of dungeon play is found. To go beyond a real limit is senseless brutality and does nothing but damage both the top and the bottom physically, mentally or both.
With the broad structure in place there are many details of costuming, props, narrative and environment that support that structure. Next we will get into the details that work on the human psyche to develop and enhance fantasy. Think about all the ways that folk have devised to ritualize their lives from the Goth scene to conservative Catholicism.
Until the next time,
May all your black clothes make it back from the cleaners,
SB.
Reprinted with permission from Wasteland.Com
Erotic power exchange can take any shape or form within a relationship between a man and a woman. From little things like blindfolding her when making love to anything like 24 hours a day, 7 days a week dedication or branding.
