French Coffee – A Story

// March 29th, 2011 // No Comments » // BDSM Articles, Featured

Do you know what “French sex” is? Well it is the European euphemism for a blowjob. My name is Nicole and for a while now when I am allowed to drink coffee, it will be “French coffee”.

This is my story. My husband and I run a private business. It is an Internet based operation that we run from our home. It is quite a demanding job, sometimes a bit stressful. And I am – or should I say was – a coffee-addict. A year ago I would drink 12 to 15 cups of coffee a day. Black and strong. No milk, just sugar. That was until the day my husband – who is also my 24/7 master – told me coffee for me would be a no go and that, if I really needed it, it would have to be “French coffee”.

This means drinking coffee now is a very humiliating protocol for me

It goes like this. If a really, really, really want coffee I will first of all have to beg for it. Next, when it suits him, I will have to kneel down and give master a really good blowjob.

And that is not just a “suck and swallow” quickly. No, he wants the works.

I must kiss, lick and suck until he is completely satisfied and ready to cum. If he does I must of course catch the sperm in my mouth, but I am not allowed to swallow it.

Master is a hard man to please and he has taught me well. So this part of the ritual is very likely to take quite some time. Usually something in between 30 minutes and an hour.

Only now master will pour me a cup of coffee. I will next have to empty my mouth in my cup, thus mixing the sperm with the coffee. This I have to do in front of him, still kneeling, so he can enjoy the scene. I can assure you, this is probably the most humiliating part of the process.

I’m sure you get the point by now. What is inside the cup after this is what master has baptized “French coffee”. I have to drink it of course.

This is the only coffee I am allowed to drink. And what is worse, this ritual allows for very clever embarrassment.

For example, whenever we visit others and people offer me coffee I have to say that only drink “French coffee”. When they ask for an explanation I will give them some story about a very special European brand or a very special blending, both of course unavailable in the United States.

And all I can do is hope that there is not another master somewhere who came up with the same idea….

Important Tips For Safe Sex & Safe Play ~ Part I

// February 12th, 2011 // No Comments » // BDSM Articles, Featured

Generally speaking, an erotic power exchange scene is not more dangerous than any other form of sex, provided you take sufficient precautions. Safe sex is a must, and not only from an HIV point of view.

Condoms

Always use a condom when penetrating, either vaginal or anal. Using condoms when having oral sex is generally advised (you can buy mint or menthol flavoured condoms for this purpose).

This may sound silly, but if you have never bought condoms before, please avoid the vending machines in discotheques, bars, etc. The problem is that you never know how old the condoms are when you buy them. A condom with an expired maximum vending date is unsafe to use, because the latex deteriorates over time.

Do use condoms when penetrating with vibrators, dildos or other toys. When in scene, it is very possible your toys will lay about and attract dust and germs. Using condoms on your toys will keep them in a better condition as well and makes them easier to clean afterwards.

Some people have allergic reactions to the lubricant that is standard on most condoms. If you are not sure, buy non-lubricated condoms with a separate, water-based lubricant.

Dental Dams

It’s a must to use dental dams when rimming (licking the outside anal area) and it’s generally advised for oral-vaginal contact. Outside the USA, dental dams are sometimes hard to get. Contact a center for information about sexually transmitted diseases for addresses.

Latex Gloves

Latex gloves will protect your and your partner from all sorts of things. When penetrating either the vagina or anus, wear gloves. Especially when you’re fisting (including vaginal fisting).

Lubricant

Lubricant makes it easier to penetrate, both vaginal and anal. Buy only water-based lubricants. Oil-based lubricants will ruin your condoms and other latex protective gear in seconds (this goes for your valuable latex clothing as well!). Be aware of the fact that massage oil, baby oil and butter will have the same effect on latex.

Some lubricants contain nonoxynol-9. Some people have allergic reactions to this. If you want to be on the safe side, buy a lubricant without it. On the other hand, nonoxynol-9 makes it a lot more difficult for the HIV virus to survive. If you and your partner(s) are not allergic then it’s worth using.

HIV Risks

All the general stuff about HIV infection (direct blood and sperm contact) of course goes for erotic power exchange as well. Take extra precautions when you are whipping and (accidentally) draw blood or when you are into needle play or cutting. Nipple clamps sometimes may cause bleeding of the nipples, women may experience this more while having a period. Intense stimulation of the nipples – clamps, binding and piercing(!!) – may incidentally cause a woman’s nipple to lactate slightly. Even some men will start to produce small amounts of lactate. Lactate may very well contain the HIV virus. 

Extra precautions should, of course, be taken if you are into some edge play situations.

The Practical Side – Basic Restraints II

// December 16th, 2010 // No Comments » // BDSM Articles, Featured

There is a variety of off-the-shelf bondage equipment on the market. Not everything is worth your money. Here are some useful toys as well as some that are best left in the shop

Glove Cuffs

Glove cuffs are leather gloves in which the hand can be folded and strapped down that way (much like a boxing glove). They are very restrictive, since the fingers cannot do anything anymore and are kept in one position that cannot be changed. That usually leads to quite a bit of frustration.

There are various designs around, make sure you buy a pair that also has good quality wrist cuffs (either intricate or attached), so can do more with your your cuffs than merely secure the fingers.

Backstraps

A backstrap is a collar and a pair of wrist cuffs, interconnected with an adjustable band. Their function is to keep the arms folded on the back, attached to the collar.

The interconnecting band should be adjustable, in order to be able to either bring the arms higher or lower as well as to adjust the whole thing to the slave’s physique.

Backstraps are erotic, rather than functional. They are good for soft, erotic play, but not very functional in sessions that are a little more rough. In fact, they might be dangerous, since moving the arms will have a direct effect on the ability to breath. For erotic BDSM however, they function very well, provided you have managed to find a good design.

When you go out to buy backstraps you need to compromise between softness and sturdiness off the leather used. If the leather is too soft, the whole will deform quickly and becomes an ugly thing that you do not want to use anymore. If however the leather is too thick, it doesn’t fit into the erotic setting it was designed for.

The other thing to watch for is the size of the collar and cuffs. Often, these will be too broad and too wide. If that is the case, better leave it on the shelf. The collar should be somewhat wide, since a thinner collar will soon become painful and actually rather dangerous, since the pressure in on the front of the neck, as soon as the arms are being dropped.

Thighcuffs

Thighcuffs are a classic example of things, that are best left where they were: on the shelf in the shop. They are an invention of the porn industry and they probably look good in pictures, but they don’t work. Due to the cone-shape of the thighs, all they do is fall off. If you want your slave in the position as in the picture, use rope. Leather cuffs simply will not do the trick.

Singlegloves

Singlegloves are a “look before you leap” toy. Their objective is to fully secure the arms on the back. They are great to have, IF your slave can handle this position. Many people simply can’t and if that is the case, buying a singleglove is simply a waste of (quite a bit of) money.

A singleglove is expensive and one of the things to pay a lot of attention to is their fit as well as adjustability. They should have straps that secure the wrists, elbows and upper arms, as well as straps that go over the shoulders to hold the whole thing in place. There should be room enough to get the arms in properly and they should go all the way up to the armpits. Do pay attention to the cone shape, so they will not block arteries in the upper arm.

Off the shelf singlegloves hardly ever fit and most are of rather poor quality. If you want to buy one, it is a much better idea to find a local leather crafter and have one made to measure. That actually will not be more expensive than buying one off the shelf. In fact, it will probably be somewhat cheaper and in any case better.

A singleglove is very restrictive and they have a high erotic charisma. Also, they make the very straining arm position somewhat easier to maintain, since the entire arms are supported by their leather encasing. For a position like this, that is a plus and your slave will probably be grateful for that..

However, do be critical. As we said, not everyone can do this and the position can easily dislocate shoulder joints or even break bones. So, unless your slave is able to handle this position, do not buy one. Try using rope first to ascertain if really can do what you want.

Article and Photos Courtesy of Wasteland.Com

BDSM Anal Enlightenment

// September 28th, 2010 // No Comments » // Featured

What do you do when your newest slave is just being unruly, rebellious and rude? Well if you’re anything like Master Eric X from Wasteland.com than you will make sure that she learns her lesson through some brutal BDSM anal enlightenment. Jada Sin, Master Eric’s newest slave is far from being obedient. She’s barely been trained at all, but she’s just so fucking smoking hot that Eric couldn’t wait to share his newest possession with the crew at Wasteland.

Although she misbehaves, Jada learns her lesson pretty fast when her cruel master shows no hesitation in forcing her onto her hands and knees and shoving his cock down her throat as a form of punishment. She might have been bewildered, but that did not stop Jada from still mouthing off, so Master Eric did the next best thing and decided that her ass would have to pay for her belligerent mouth! Jada has no choice but to accept her punishment right in front of the wasteland cameras as her Master pounds her ass so hard that she ends up screaming in an intense orgasm!

Just CLICK HERE if you want to see the full picture gallery of Jada and her anal experience.